Searching for a partner often feels like navigating uncharted waters—hopeful, intimidating, and sometimes exhausting. In Finding a Partner: And It May Be You, Jo Ann Lordahl reminds us that love starts with the relationship we build with ourselves.
One of her first lessons is simple but powerful: don’t give up. Even if rejection stings or past relationships ended badly, every experience carries wisdom. Instead of seeing failed romances as wasted time, Lordahl frames them as steppingstones toward self-discovery.
She also highlights the importance of avoiding the wrong matches early. Her list of “10 Signs to Run for Your Life” includes red flags like chronic jealousy, narcissism, or the smooth-talker who never follows through. Recognizing these early saves time, heartache, and energy for the right connection.
Equally important is setting intentions. Lordahl recommends writing down affirmations and practicing self-love before seeking a partner. For example: “I am now manifesting a perfect mate to augment a life I love.” When we align our actions with our goals, the universe has a way of stepping in to help.
And perhaps the most comforting reminder is that happiness isn’t dependent on a relationship. Building a fulfilling, creative, joyful life means you win no matter what. When you’re thriving on your own, you naturally attract people who want to share that joy.
The takeaway? Finding love isn’t about desperate searching—it’s about showing up as your best self, enjoying the journey, and being open to the unexpected. Love may or may not arrive tomorrow, but when it does, you’ll already be whole.
Note From the Blogger
Although I have not been, nor will I be looking for another partner, I do want to become more harmonious with myself. I do, however, support all of my author friends in whatever they have taken the time to research, write and publish their stories, whatever they may be. I will be going over the books my friends have published and start writing new articles about them on my blog here. We all hope you will like, share, comment and subscribe to whatever platform you happen to read this article. Of course, buying the books I reference and writing your own book reviews on places like Goodreads or the the new app https://fable.co/. Any of my author friends out there want me to read and review their books just use my CONTACT US form and let me know.
My Review on Goodreads
Finding a Partner And It May Be You by Jo Ann Lordahl
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Finding a Partner: And It May Be You by Jo Ann Lordahl is not your typical “how-to” relationship book. Instead of neat checklists or quick-fix dating hacks, this book offers something deeper: honesty, self-reflection, and wisdom from someone who has lived the ups and downs of love, loss, and reinvention.
What I appreciated most is Jo Ann’s vulnerability. She doesn’t sugarcoat her past mistakes or disappointments. Instead, she shares them openly—showing that growth often comes from our stumbles. Her sections on recognizing red flags (like her “10 Signs to Run for Your Life”) are both practical and eye-opening.
But the heart of the book isn’t about chasing a partner—it’s about creating a fulfilling life first. I especially loved her reminder: “With the happy life I win no matter what happens.” That line stuck with me because it turns the focus away from desperation and onto joy, creativity, and self-love.
This book is encouraging without being preachy. It feels like sitting down with a wise friend who has already walked through fire and come out stronger—and she’s sharing the lessons so you don’t have to repeat the same mistakes.
If you’re single, divorced, widowed, or just trying to make sense of modern love, Finding a Partner will leave you feeling inspired, less alone, and more hopeful about the possibilities—both with or without a partner by your side.
